Andy and I have been wrestling with yet another parenting issue. We have just had snip its of conversations in the past few days, hopefully we can get somewhere with it soon. Basically the topic is: how do we cultivate spiritual beauty in our girls and not physical vanity?
None of this is very formulated in my mind so here goes some scattered questions/thoughts.
We don't want to create a vain environment, but say "the most important thing is that you are beautiful on the inside." Basically we don't want to send contradicting messages...
So how is this done practically?
Do we take Leyla out of ballet (even though it is a Christian studio with a emphasis on character, modesty, and melodious music)?
Do we not buy them cute" clothes (this may sound funny, I'm just thinking here)?
Do we not compliment there outward appearance ("Chloe I love you curly hair, it looks so pretty")?
These things may not be bad, but are they promoting the best? Are they sending the wrong message?
Then there's my example...I love to make my home pretty, I
like to dress a certain way and I do spend time on my physical appearance. Frankly the thought of not, is scary to me...Am I setting a bad example?
I know we are raising girls here...who have a natural tendancy to carry around purses, want to put on make up, and dress up like a princess. How do we point that which comes naturally to be a positive and not a negative?
I don't think we should go extreme and put NO effort towards beautifying ourselves or things around us. I think the Lord wants us to enjoy physical beauty, whether it's a person, the blue skies, mountains, flowers, etc. This enjoyment causes us to give God glory for his creativity and splendor.
Maybe I'll post a part 2 on this after some more thought...So, how do we find the balance in godly femininity and vanity? How do we promote this to our little girls? How do we guard them against the extreme physical obsession in our society?